What is the big deal with confidence?

What is the big deal with confidence. Why do some people have so much and others are struggling just to get their name out wondering why they missed out or something. Well we're all living in this box, and until we realize that we're not and then here we are... "obstacles are the things we see when we take our eyes off our goals"

Is it possible to teach confidence? Well, yes. Anything is possible!

Take drinking for example. Drinking is of course  a way of releaving stress but really in turn most of the time creates more...much more...? who would tend to agreee with me?  Like you had a long week or exams or life just isn't getting you places or your life is too hard and seems like there is no way out or how about Asia. Everybody is just so damn busy and has no time for families or friends so when they do get the chance they want to drink it away. Then once the drinking begins. The talk starts of changing lives and big hopes and money and next minute. Heads are huge if they weren't already before.

Guess what you wake up no closer to your dreams but have a nasty head ache and are probaby tired or else have wasted half of your day sleeping!Confidence you gain when your drinking isn't really yours.

So if you don't get your confidence from drinking where does it come from then?  well 1st of all lets clear our heads and think straight here. hope you didn't drink last night! Well everybody has to discover their own confidence and some people may discover theirs quicker and some people may never quite find all of it. well just listen to your heart and block out the stuff that isn't bringing you in the right direction

I've grown up with my fair shair of love but know people who haven't and all I can say is that I belive in you even if you don't yet! Have you seen the "Conte of Monte Cristo"? Well God belives in you as well even if you don't believe or have faith in him! Change can be hard but the hardest thing I thing would be too look back on a life of regret or chances that we didn't take.

The only real regrets we'll have when its all said and done is the chances that we didn't take.


We'll never truly know what were capable of until we go to far or "dreams are the limits of our success.

Never give up. It's never to late for anything!!!

How can you Love Your Life and Find Your Purpose in Life?

There are many books and websites that you can look for and read great advices about how to be happy in life and how to deal with different situations, great happiness tips but still it is very easy to read but hard to apply .

It is different with everyone to apply the happiness tips according to age and personalities and  kinds of  dilemmas that can be faced, most of people give up through hard times and forget what they read and learned about happiness and positive thinking.

What are you going to do then will you move forward and act smart even when life is giving you no reason to do that? What will make you beat the hard time and conquer the hurdles that you are faced with?

First you have to remeber you are alive then you love your life
Second why are you alive? What is your life's pupose ?
Third Bad times go Good times come
 
What is the Life's Purpose?


You are here for a reason. It does not matter where you come from, what do you look like or what kinds ofproblems you are faced with. Different people may have different believes. Each one has graces that differ from others evryone have something special. that you live with it  and deal with others with what you are.
You have to find the reason why you are here in the first place. You have to know your purpose to know where life is leading you or where you want to be led.


Here are some suggestions that you can take in order to start your quest into finding your purpose in Life
 
 
1. Acceptance
You have to accept who you are and what you are, what can you do and love yourself despite your imperfections. when you have learned to do this, you will understand things better and act better. You will  look at things from a different perspective. You will be able to see things more clear by knowing your strengths and limitations.



2. Gratitude
Look at things around you, look at what you have and the things that you don't have Look at other people and how they live their lives. You must learn to appreciate the things that makes you similar and sets you apart from the rest. You must learn to give credit where it is due and place importance on the vital aspects that constitutes who you are and what can you do.


3. Perseverance
Life is a continuous journey. Sometimes the roads may seem to hard to take. But that should not stop you from going through them and attaining your goal. You must find a the force that will drive you to keep moving and keep going on despite the situation and difficulty of the life journey. Just think about what you will gain in the process. And you must also feel good in knowing that after the dark or hard days, some light and brightness will come in to make the ride easier for you to make.


4. Set a goal.
What do you want to achieve in life? what will make fell happy in life? Whtat will make my family or beloved ones happy in Life?
What is the ultimate goal that you want to attain as you get older? These are some questions that can take years before you can settle for an answer. But the answer, when you have already found it, will make you appreciate your hard work and will give meaning to everything that you do and work hard to attain. It will also give you more reasons in loving life, and you will keep yourself strong during hard time beacuse you have a goal to achieve and nothing  will ever stop you


 

Personal Stress Management: Relaxation Strategies

It’s a plain fact that only you can help yourself overcome stress and the key to that starts with your mind. Without knowing it, the mind is the initial target of stress since everything that happens in our life is initially perceived and processed by our brain. Learning to control your chain of thoughts and a few relaxation tips can do wonder for your personal stress management.

Relax and say goodbye to stress

The first method in dealing with stress in your own personal way is to learn how to relax. It might not be much but professionals and therapists agree that being relaxed while in the throes of stress can help you find solutions in getting rid of it. There are plenty of methods that can help you relax, and you can choose one that will suit you best.

Music and dancing

It is true that the music soothes the savage beast, and your mind is definitely savage when under the influence of stress. Playing instrumental music or nature sounds can ease your mind and help you relax. Some would even recommend dancing to the melody of the music to release the tension that builds up in your body. Loosening all those tight muscles can help you relax as well as increasing the circulation of blood and oxygen into other areas of your body promoting a healthy outlet to stress.

Massage

The body and the mind are connected. The mind can perceive what the body can feel and vice versa. By pampering your body, you can help your mind relax and put you in a calm mood. Getting a massage is a great way to give your body a break, and your mind as well. Shiatsu can do wonders in getting those tired muscles out of your system which will help you feel balanced and energized afterwards.

Aromatherapy massage can also help you relax. Being rubbed with scented oils like jasmine or lavender can help your mind relax while the soothing massage gently caresses your body.

Meditation of mind and body

Meditation is a great way to reduce the tension that builds up in your mind while under the influence of stress. Originally part of the pagan religion, stress is now being incorporated by many professionals as a healthy resort to stress and problems. Try to find a quiet place in your mind or in your office. You may sit down or lie down. Focus on each and every single area of your body and commanding them to relax with your mind. You might feel slightly heavy afterwards since you are internally focused.

Try to visualize an object or phrase a question in your mind. Focus on it as long as necessary. Fleeting thoughts and scenes will flash through but pay them no heed. After a while, your mind will stop projecting images and you will feel like as if you're floating in total nothingness. You will feel refreshed after meditation and you will be ready to face stress in the face.

Physical exercise

One personal stress management technique that can dispel stress is to find an outlet for your mental and emotional burdens. Physical exercise is a highly recommended approach in dealing with stress and is incorporated by stress management clinics and workouts worldwide.

Since the mind and the body are connected, keeping it healthy will have a profound influence in your state of mind. Doing at least 4 times of physical exercise a week can improve your cardiovascular functions and strengthen your heart.

This will help you avoid effects of stress like stroke, high-blood pressure, muscle pains, and so on.

Keeping Fit and Loving Life

You can begin loving life by learning to appreciate your health. Keeping yourself fit would do well enough to make you stay healthy to enjoy your life. Doing so should not be as hard as you might seem to believe. There are many ways that you can keep yourself fit without having to go through the usual process of going to the gym and working the machines to lose pounds. There are other easy ways to do it.

One of the easiest and simplest ways to stay fit is by walking. Making it a habit to walk can do a lot in trying to make your body physically active. Walking can be very beneficial if you try to make a habit out of it just by changing some of the things that you usually do. If you plan to go somewhere on a short distance, why not walk it out instead of using your car?

Riding your bike can also be a good way to stay fit. You can use your bike instead if you wish to go places that can be too far to walk. You can use your bike instead of your car and then enjoy the benefits of physical exercise. Not only that by using your bike instead of your car, you may also be saving quite considerably on fuel costs.

Jogging can also be a good way to keep yourself fit. Jogging is a fairly easy and effective way to improve your aerobic fitness. You don't have to buy a running machine or use the treadmill just to do so. Jogging can also offer other benefits aside from just helping you keep fit. It might be much better for you to be outdoors where the weather is nice and go out on a jog than to drag yourself to the gym. By going outdoors, you enjoy the fresh air and the surrounding scenery as you go out jogging to keep yourself fit.

If you wish to combine work with exercise as a means to keep fit, maybe you can try out gardening. Doing work on your lawn or yard can d a lot to give you a good physical workout. Working with the shovels and spades can help keep your muscles toned. You also make your yard look more beautiful by taking care of it as a means to keep fit.

Even at work, keeping fit can also be included in the daily tasks. Taking the stairs instead of the elevator gives your body a good workout. You can try to park your car at the far end of the parking lot and try to walk the rest of the way into your office. When going out to lunch, you can try walking instead of driving there. This way, you ca still continue giving yourself a good workout even while at work. And doing this daily would get your good results after a week or so.

Loving life means trying to take care of your body and keep it healthy. A healthy body ensures that you are able to do the things that you love doing. Having a healthy and fit body ensures that you thoroughly enjoy life with less limitations and more possibilities.

5 Quick And EASY Techniques To Help You Realize And Fulfill Your TRUE Goals In Life

Did you know that 'Goal Setting' is the secret to fulfilling ANY dream or desire you want in life?

Did you also know that SUPER Successful people use 'Goals' to attain the knowledge and wealth they have today?

Some of you reading this right now might agree and some of you might not.

That decision is yours to make.

The reason people find it too hard to achieve their goals is simple because they've set their Long-Term goals before setting Short-Term ones, or they just didn't plan their goals out carefully.

Goal setting strategies are VERY important, especially for those who want to achieve Long-Term goals.

Well, your in luck because I'm going to share five 'Goal Setting' techniques to help you realize your TRUE goals today.

Your only requirement is to keep an open mind.

So, with that said, lets go to Technique #1.


Technique #1. Start with Short-Term goals.

Sometimes, people start with short-term goals unconsciously.

Why unconsciously?

Some of them may have considered the goals to be long-term at the time they planned them; and after achieving a goal, they realize that they are in fact, looking forward to a longer one.

Some are contented with their short-term goals, but after a while will realize that they also need to attain long-term ones.

Short-term goals seem to be our starting point for our Long Term ones.

They also motivate the person to plan for longer goals, which will usually take some time before achieving them in full.


Technique #2. Make sure you really want the goal.

By this, you have to ask yourself: "Do I really want this goal and will this goal give me a better life?"

Answering this ONE question will give you more passion and motivation to achieve your goal.

Some people often recall their past to find out Why and How they came up with such goal.


Technique #3. Speak up.

What I mean by this is you shouldn't keep your goals to yourself only. By sharing your goals with other people it'll help you get the support you may need in order to fulfill them.

The problem that usually occurs though is some people are just too shy to tell others about their goals for reasons like they are afraid they cannot achieve them in the end, or they lack the courage to speak their minds.

This is not a good habit to get into because when the time comes that you really need their support, you will have a difficult time getting it.

You'll then be left to achieve your goals all by yourself.

Don't make this mistake.


Technique #4. Write down your goals.

This strategy is critical and more advisable for those who have a long list of goals.

After writing them down in as much detail, it is advisable that you review them on a daily to weekly basis because this will encourage and motivate you to achieving them, plus, this will also keep that vision of your goal alive.


Technique #5. Stay on track and never give up.

Reviewing notes will help open your mind to see if you are on the right track. While on track, you may have to face challenges that might change your personality.

A person who is overconfident might suddenly feel depressed after finding out that he is going the wrong way in achieving his goal.

Thus this might lead to abandoning the goal.

Never be discouraged.

Facing obstacles is a test on how passionate one is to realizing his or her goals.


There you have it.

Give those a try and keep a visual picture in your mind everyday of you fulfilling that goal you desire so much.

The Poison That kills Your dreams (Part 2)

How do we eliminate This Poison?

Monitor the Thoughts that you allow into your mind.........Every thought

If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts..........think again...............strive to think Positive empowering and supportive thoughts.




*Just as u monitor your thoughts , monitor the words that u speak.


*Listen carefully to every word that is coming from your mouth.

Watch for Excusitis .....Excusitis is a disease that causes people to constantly make excuses
When you hear yourself complaining stop yourself immediately


* Create a vocabulary of a successful positive inspiring individual


*Be passionate in your speech and express your enthusiasm with you words.


*The energy of the words that you speak is a powerful force that is creative.

There is so much to be positive about !!



you are so valuable that should raise your self esteem and self value


Parts of the process to shift your thoughts from negative to positive is to be Grateful for what you have in your life....and to focus on what is great in every situation.


*Be appreciative and show appreciation to others


*Gratitude will attract to you more of the things that you desire

Cut Yourself free today and be the most Positive and Ootimistic person that you Know

Always think Positively